2) Will we get back together again?
Answer: If you allow it to happen again. It will probably be more of the same
stuff! Being with Mr. Dependable will only cause you a lot of pain and suffering.
Just think about it...if you two were to be in a marriage or steady relationship...
would/could you trust him? Could you handle it if he just got up and left again?
He is not a good person to be in a relationship with. He is not sensitive to your
feelings. I know it is hard to do, but you must let go of him and move on. Having
him in your life is like poison.  I'm sure if you look back through the 10 years that
you've known him, you will see and remember the little things that he said or did ...
or didn't say or do ... that will give you clues as to the type of person that he is.
Sometimes we forget or dismiss the small/petty or negative things that tells us a
lot about the person. You don't want to look for negative things and make quick
judgment about a person ... but it's a good idea to take little notes (in your head)
about those little things (both positive and negative), then over a period of time
you will have a very good idea about how a person really is.

3) What were his real reasons for leaving at that time?
Answer: I believe that he is seeing someone else. I'm sure that other female is
going through hell too. He is too much of a coward to tell you the truth.

4) What can I do now?
Answer: The first thing to do is: Don't set yourself up for more disappointment.
It's normal to feel the way you are feeling, but if you don't SNAP OUT of this...
then you will continue to be depressed. In fact, when you are depressed and
feeling down...that is exactly what you will attract. If you want to feel good and
be happy, then the first thing to do is to think of something that makes you happy.
The more you think about being happy, the sooner you will become happy. You
will then be in a more creative space, attract positive, happy people, and good
opportunities to you. The best time to start making the change is ... NOW!
Have fun, and best wishes to you for a happy and healthy life. :o)

Dear Ben,
I'm lost at where my life is supposed to continue from here. My love life and my
school life seem at total failures. What do you see in the near future? Do you see
either Mike or Jim coming back into my life in the future? Thanks.   Jen

Hi Jen,
Life can be confusing at times, huh? I don't see Mike or Jim coming back
into your life. If they were to be back with you, it wouldn't be any fun for
you because it would be just in and out...and you alone and depressed
again! Think about it a second...is that what you want?...NO!  Do you
want to know when you will start attracting some good energy and
happiness? It will start happening for you as soon as you start the
following steps: Go to an empty room and sit quietly and close your
eyes...relax...take a slow, long deep breath, hold it for a second or two,
then exhale slowly. Continue breathing in this manner for about the
next 15 minutes. SMILE...just think of being HAPPY, and you will
start feeling happy. Think about what makes you happy; Keep think-
ing about happy thoughts; keep smiling and say "Hello" to yourself.
Feel good about yourself, and enjoy this time for yourself.  Do this
little meditation daily, and you will really start to find that you are
becoming more balanced, happy and comfortable in life. You will
also find that your creativeness, knowingness, and havingness will
be working together at a very high level.

This meditation might appear to be trivial, and you might not decide
to do it, but believe me...if you do decide to sit-down and do it...you
will feel the magic!

Some other important things for you to do would be to: slow down,
take your time, don't be in such a rush because it will cause you more
frustrations; keep things simple; take one step at a time; and don't be
so hard on yourself; give to yourself; enjoy life...have fun. :o)

Dear Ben,
I am an 18 Year old singer from New York...I went on an open
audition for a major record label about a month and a half ago.  
They called me back and said that the producers wanted to meet
me...So I went in to meet them and it was absolutely amazing--
a real recording studio with all the Gold CDS on the wall!  We
made an appointment for me to come in and record that next
friday to make a demo tape so that the producers could take it
back to all the executives at the record company. The next step
would be my record deal!!! THIS IS MY DREAM and all I have
ever wanted. The night before I was supposed to go in, they called
and said that we had to reschedule because a dance singer named
Amber was recording her new album and they would call me in
two-three weeks. Well, it has been almost a month so I called the
record company today and the producer said that he is going to
Europe and when he gets back he will call me to reschedule. I need
to know what to do or what is going to happen with this.  I don't
know what to do first, should I just keep on auditioning?  I just
have this feeling that they are the company that I am getting my
chance with. I was put on this earth to sing, and it is in me. I
need help thanks <3 Honey

Hi Honey,
Yes, definitely keep on auditioning! You will go crazy if you
just sit and wait for them!   Most of those companies move
at their own beat. If they know you want them bad...they'll
take their time. If you are talented, and they know that you
are keeping your options open and not chasing after them...
they will go after you. It's all a game. That is why it's good
to keep auditioning and getting as much experience as pos-
sible. So, relax, smile, have some fun, and keep on singing!
You can't keep worry about that Company for now!  Once
you get your mind off that company and back on to your
love for singing, more opportunity will open up for you...
and you will be closer to realizing your dreams.  Best
wishes to you.  :o)

Dear Ben,
My boyfriend totally shocked me the other day by telling me
that he thinks we should split up. We have been living together
for the past 6 years, and I thought everything was fine.  Over
this past weekend we were having fun and he even surprised
me by telling me that he is making reservations for our vacat-
ion in Hawaii. Al told me that he loves me so much!  Then
Monday morning comes along, and that is when he totally
changed,and told me that we should break up, and that I
should move out of his house!  He told me that he is not 
in love with me anymore, and he is in love with someone
else. Al said that he wants children, and he doesn't want
me anymore because I am not able to have his children.
Ben, what should I do; I'm so shocked, hurt and confused.  
Al knew that I couldn't have children when we first started
going around.  He said that he didn't want anymore children
because he already has 3 grown kids in their late teens and
early twenties. What should I do?  Margaret, CA

Hi Margaret,
Al is a BIG JERK!  He's been playing around behind your
back for a long time.  I'm sure you knew about it, but chose
not to pay attention to it, Right?!  Al is very sneaky and con-
trolling.  He thinks about himself, first.  He's been taking ad-
vantage of your soft heart.  Remember, you asked me about
him six years ago, and I told you about the kind of person
he is?  I know that you wanted everything to work out for
the best.  You were doing all of the giving in this relationship,
and he was doing all of the taking.  You are going to be fine.  
You will get over this just like you did the last time.  In fact,
you are bouncing back faster than the last time.  The lesson
from this experience is for you to remember to be aware,
and watch for all the little signs/signals that people give off.  
Don't just ignore them, but file them away.  Before long, you
will be very good at analyzing different people and situations.
In the meantime, it is best that you do move in to your own
place.  You will get a fresh start, and feel much better.  Re-
member how you were feeling so good about yourself, and
creating everything you wanted, and getting all the attention
from different males that you liked?  That all started when
you had your own apartment to yourself. It's time to start
thinking about yourself, and giving to yourself.  :o)   
 
Dear Ben,
Will John and I get back together again?  Teresa,  Singapore

Hi Teresa,
I don't think John will be back.  I know that you are stuck on
him, but you are going to have to start pulling your attention
away from him or it's really going to make you sick, mentally,
and physically if you don't!  First of all, John doesn't have any
direction...he seems kind of lost.  He can also be very stubborn,
and controlling, and it doesn't appear that he is ready to change
anytime soon.  His energy runs very low, and slow... which tells
me that he is not able to use his creativeness, so he just wanders
around aimlessly.  When you keep thinking about John (what he
is doing, and where he is at), you tend to match the same energy
level that he is at.  When you match John's energy level, it makes
you feel depressed and stuck. You, being a female, normally run
your energy higher, and faster...so when you match John...you
are actually running your energy just like a male.  So the solution
is to go out and have some fun...go see a movie; be with some
good friends; exercise; buy something for yourself; start giving
to yourself, and be Happy!  The more you smile and laugh, the
sooner you will feel better, and attract GOOD energy, and
HAPPY energy towards you.  So.......GET STARTED!   :o)        

Question: #1
Am I on the right career path? Should I make a change?

Answer:
Your energy tends to move very quickly which shows me that
you get bored if you aren’t challenged. This keeps you on your
toes, but it also causes you to get exhausted. You are a very
responsible, and independent young lady. I think that you would
be much happier and healthier in the long run, if you choose a
career path where you could control the situation and use your
communication skills, and creative abilities to build your own
business. Areas that you would be very good at: consulting;
organizing; sales; designing; art; also something where you use
your hands to create, etc. Think about what you really enjoy
doing, and what you are good at…write down a plan of action,
then just start doing it! You can make it happen.

Question: #2
What will the future bring financially?

Answer:
When you do start your own business and stick with it (you are
a survivor), you will be very successful. The important thing is to
take your time and think about what you want to do that doesn’t
cost much to start out. Write out a plan of action, then follow it,
one step at a time. Start out part-time…don’t get all stressed out,
be relaxed and happy… you will be very successful financially!

Question: #3
Will my current relationship last?

Answer:
I think Michael’s energy runs similar to yours, except that you
tend to go to extremes. You either feel very high (happy), or very
low (depressed). The reason for this fluctuation is that you see
things very quickly in your head (spiritually), but you get frustrated
when things don’t happen quickly enough in the physical world.
Then you sometimes get depressed, angry, guilty, and tired.

Michael is more in the middle. He doesn’t take things in as deeply
as you do. He tends to move on very quickly. I don’t think this will
be a very long relationship because sometimes he doesn’t stick to
his commitments like you do. Michael can be very sensitive and
understanding when he wants to be…but consistently, I think you
need someone who is more sensitive to your feelings, and needs.
I see that you will meet someone new. In the meantime…be happy,
and have fun with Michael!!!

Remember, you have the power to make any changes you want.
You are a very capable, and talented person. My very best wishes
to you for a very Happy and Prosperous life!

Dear Ben,
How do you see the future situation with my family and boyfriend?  
Also, do you see me doing anything that I would enjoy a lot this
summer?  Nikki

Hi Nikki,
First of all, I think that you are a very caring, intelligent, and creative
person.  The main challenge that you are experiencing is balancing
your energy.  Sometimes your energy is racing so fast that you get
very impatient, frustrated, and tired.  You tend to lose concentration
in what you are  thinking, and doing, and you also miss out in oppor-
tunities that are right in front of you because you are going to fast.  
Sometimes your energy runs too slow, which causes you to get a little
depressed.  Don't worry, you are perfectly normal.  We all go through
these on going stages of trying to adjust and balance.

When you are balanced, you are able to see things more clearly, in
present time.  Your body and spirit will feel good, calm, and happy
too.  You will be able to tap into your creative power, and knowingness
that  lies within you. You will be able to improve your communication
with everyone, including your family, and boyfriend(s).  Please scroll
down this page to the readings for last February, and March.  If you
follow those simple steps in meditating with colors, I'm sure you will
notice a big difference.

To answer your questions about your family, boyfriend, and this sum-
mer:  I see a big improvement with your communication with them...so
things will be smoother.  As for your boyfriend, I see more than 1 boy-
friend (this summer), be careful...but have fun.   :o)

Dear Ben, I have several questions to ask you.   Thank you.   Tat

Question #1
Over the last 11 months, I have been depressed over my last relationship
with my ex-girlfriend Ellen Lin. How can my heart still feel so strong for
her? What happened to us in our past life that makes me totally obsessed
with her? Will she come back to me?

Answer:
Your strong feelings for Ellen has to do with a past-life both of you shared
together in China, around the 1600’s. In that life, you used to trade and sell
fruits and vegetables that were grown on your family’s farm. You were about
18 or 19 years old. Your family was well to do, and everyone knew you.

Everyday you would setup your stand to sell and trade your goods at the port
where many ships and boats would arrive from other countries. Ellen was about
8 or 9 years old at the time. Everyday she would go down to the port to watch
you from a distance, because she had a crush on you. You would always attract
attention because you were good at joking around and making people laugh. People
would always crowd around your stand to buy and trade with you. Near the end
of the day, Ellen would go up to your stand to say hello to you. Her family was
very poor, so you always gave her fruits and vegetables to take home.

You treated her like a little sister, but she wished she could be your girlfriend. She
got jealous when different girls would laugh and talk to you.

When she was about 15 years old, you started looking at her in a different way.
She wasn’t that cute little sister anymore, but she was beginning to become a
beautiful young lady. You two spent more and more time together; soon, fell
in love and eventually got married and had children.

Ellen didn’t like all the attention you showed to the other females. When she
mentioned it to you, you got angry with her, eventually not allowing her to go
down to the stand anymore. You two didn’t talk much to each other anymore.
She knew that you drank and had affairs with other women, causing her to feel
angry and sad. She was trained to be a good wife and mother, and to not quest-
ion you.

She was so depressed and in so much pain that she got very sick and died in her
mid 20’s. After she had died, you found and read her diary. Your eyes opened,
and you finally realized all the pain, sadness, and loneliness she had felt.

After her death, your life started to change. You felt remorse for all the pain that
you created for her; you became more sensitive and caring. You prayed for her
forgiveness and vowed that in the next lifetime, you would make it up to her.

Well Tat, this is the next lifetime, but it doesn’t look like Ellen has forgotten what
happened in the last. I guess she still wants you to suffer some more. I don’t see
you two together again in this life (but you never know ), but I’m sure you’ll meet
up with her, sometime in the next one.

Question #2
Will there be a new girl coming into my life in the near future?

Answer:
Yes, I do see you in another relationship in the near future. The sooner you get into
a happy, creative space, the sooner you will attract that young lady. Remember, the
key is to let go, and forgive yourself and others for past mistakes; learn from your
mistakes (don’t repeat them); start creating a happy space (feeling); think about
what is really important in life to you; when you meet a young lady that you might
be interested in, find out what is really important in life to her; be caring; be crea-
tive; be consistent; be responsible; keep thing simple; take one step at a time; be
happy, and have fun. Best wishes to you.   :o)

Dear Ben,
I have been dating a very nice man (named David) for approximately 6 months.  
I am in love with him and I believe he is in love with me.  He is very private with
his feelings and thoughts.  How can I get him to open up and trust me?  Do you
see us getting married or moving in together?  Elena

Hi Elena,
I do see that David is very private with his thoughts and feelings because he
doesn't want you to see all of his cards. I see him playing some games with you...
not being truthful to you. I really don't see any commitment on his part.  I'm sure
you feel some emptiness with him.  I know that you are very truthful, and trust-
worthy...so there shouldn't be any question about him trusting you.  The Big
question should be...Do You Trust Him?  I believe that you do have good reasons
for not trusting him.  I also see that he can get very jealous, possessive, and con-
trolling.  Other then that I think he is great, and marrying him would be wonderful!...
NOT!!!    :o) 

Dear Ben,
What do you see with Kent?  Do you see us together?  What does the near future
look like for me?      R.M.,  in VA

Hi R.M.,
Kent does like you a lot, but he moves around so much that he is always preoc-
cupied with work. If you were to have a close relationship with him, it would be 
very hard on you because he'd never be around.  I feel he's getting tired of all the 
traveling now, but that won't last too long because after awhile he will get all antsy 
again.  He likes the freedom of moving around.

If you really want to get his attention, just turn your charm on to him in a happy,
shy, and teasing (playful) way (by thinking, writing, or talking to him), then pull
your attention away from him (keep yourself busy with other things, and not on
him) and I'll bet that he will be calling you very soon.  When you pull your atten-
tion away from him, he will feel the difference and miss your energy (presence.) 

It really looks like you are ready for some big changes in your life!  Just start
thinking about what you really want in life, and be very specific and happy about
those thoughts (feel the happiness throughout your mind, body, and spirit), and
you will be on your way to creating a very happy future.  Best wishes to you.  :o)

Dear Ben,
I have been depressed for a long time. I have a lot of hurt inside from what has
happened to me in the past. It is really affecting me now...I cry alot and I don’t
have any self-esteem. I was told that I have an angel who is surrounded in bright
white and helping me to love myself. Can you tell me if I will learn to love myself
and can you tell me about this angel? Thank you very much.     Becky

Hi Becky,
One of the key ingredients to healing yourself is: making the decision that you do
want to let go of the past and that you really do want to be happy and feel good
about yourself and life. Crying is ok...it helps you to release the built up tension
and helps to take out the charge/ energy of what you are dealing with. Another
good way to help release this built up energy is doing some very light exercising/
walking and stretching. It would also help your circulation and give you some
new energy so your body will start to feel better. Start thinking about happy
thoughts...what makes you smile?; what makes you laugh?; what makes you
happy?; what makes you feel good? When you start to condition yourself with
happy, positive thoughts; you will be directing and attracting happy and positive
energy into your life. Just smile; notice the difference in how you feel (lighter,
higher vibration)...now frown; notice the difference (lower, and heavier feeling/
vibration). Just changing from a frowning, sad or angry vibration to a smiling
or happy vibration can make a world of difference in how you feel and what
you experience in life. Keep things simple and take one step at a time. Relax,
don’t be so hard on yourself... start validating yourself (say to yourself, “I
love me, Becky”); acknowledge that you are a good person and that you want
and deserve to feel good and want to create happiness. If you want to be able
to love yourself, feel good and be happy in the future...then, start loving your-
self  NOW; feel good NOW; be happy NOW. If you  are doing it NOW, you
are creating it for your future.  As for the angels or healing spirits around you...
yes there is a female healing spirit / angel assisting and encouraging you, but
it’s hard for you to hear her and to receive her messages if you are vibrating
at a sad and depressed energy level....for all the angels and healing spirits
around trying to help you, the most capable one that can do the most for you...
is the spirit that owns your body...YOU. Remember...”You are an angel in a
body”.  Best wishes to you.  :o)